Today is our anniversary. This week I’ve been sifting through my thoughts on the last year of marriage.
Marriage is hard. But it’s worth fighting for. Date nights, selfish acts, keeping Jesus at the center. These things do not just happen, it takes work. Coming off of a year where we put in “the work,” it paid off tenfold. I can remember times in the not too distant past that I said, “I’m not sure I can do this.” Real life. It’s hard and messy. But God is good. All the time He is good and faithful. I feel like our last year of marriage is a reflection of that.
Date nights became a priority this year. If you have kids, you KNOW how hard this is but it is also so valuable. The time we made for each other has been treasured time. This is a must for us! (We also had to get creative with date nights in when life happened; sick kids or sitter availability.)
The more we draw near to Jesus the more we see His design for marriage. It is after all His. A picture of Christ’s love for the Church (His people). There are many parallels used of the groom (referring to Christ) and the bride. (Matthew 25:10-14, John 3:27-30)
He has included us in this unique relationship of a covenant. (Malachi 2:14) The highest relationship on this earth is that of a covenant between husband and wife. If you browse through the Old Testament mentions of covenant it includes God’s promises to His people. He made a covenant with Noah, Abraham, David. In the New Testament, Jesus becomes the new covenant. What a special picture of promise that a man and woman get to mirror. This is what I see and feel when I draw closer to Him. That even in this, marriage is set up to glorify Him.
So at the end of the day when this is hard or messy or I feel like I just can’t go on like this… I have to remind myself of this truth. Ultimately this marriage isn’t about me, it’s about HIM. I pray often, “satan you have no place here. In the name of Jesus, this marriage is yours. Protect it.” In Matthew 19 Jesus is talking about the marriage relationship “and He also said: ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two will become one flesh? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, man must not separate.’” Amen.